Exactly ten years ago today, I walked into a College and Career church gym-night and met the man I would marry. It was my 20th birthday.  Wes was playing game of 3-on-3 basketball and I was on the sidelines, trying to look like I was comfortable in the setting.  I wasn’t. But I was desperate to belong to a group.  I went the church in search of a friend, I didn’t know I’d find my future. He came off the court sweaty and gross and plunked down on the ground beside me.  I remember thinking, “Ew, you need a shower…”  but then, he showed me a part of himself I still cherish…